Have you ever done something because you thought it was what you were supposed to do and not because it was what you would typically do? Many times throughout my life I have faced this situation and it's been good for me. But as I was vacuuming today, I was thinking that maybe since I married I've done a lot of things just because I thought I was supposed to do them. I often do what I do because I think that's how a wife and, now, mother should act.
I'm now realizing that sometimes doing this detracts from my own unique self. It hides who I really am. Take this blog, for example, it's green and brown because I thought a gal with a family of 3 guys should display her family with some masculinity. But after my thoughts today, I think I'm going to change the style to exactly what I want it to be (as much as I can with the computer skills I have :)
And as far as other things go in my home, I'm going to lighten up and try to be the self I spent 29 years finding. Who makes the rules for what a wife and mother is supposed to do, anyway?
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jen, this post was perfect. i loved every word and i agree whole heartedly!
oh and wanna come over and vacuum my house?
That makes me want to stop right now and go vacuum...jk.
Go Benj! Bring on the girly Benji stuff!! The male figures in your life will appreciate it. :)
Hey Jen, I found your blog through Jessica. I got your activity bag in the mail the other day - cute. Thanks!! It is funny to read this post. I just redid the look of my blog again, but still kept with blues - more of a masculine look to represent a family of guys & me. I didn't want it to look too girly. :)
I was talking to Jessica & she said you wanted to get together. On Mondays we go to the South Jordan library for the most amazing story time. Would you like to meet us there this coming Monday (or another one) for story time and then we can go to lunch after? Let me or Jessica know. :)
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So true, Jen... I think we all struggle with that at different times. It's hard to keep a hold of yourself in the midst of all that mothering sometimes. Kudos to you for seeing it and doing something about it!
Totally along my same feelings when I saw that women's conference video I blogged about. It's weird how you think you know everything about yourself, but then suddenly it feels lost among your other "duties" in life. Bring on the girly and break the rules!
I completely agree. I decided the other day that if this baby is a boy I am going to buy a pink diaper bag anyway. Because I like pink.
I just stumbled onto your blog, but I had to say - I've been married for 11 years, and I have four kids. I think you've nailed it with the blog color's thing. It's those little expressions of self that make all the difference for me - as well as taking time out to do the things I enjoy, like long baths, shopping, or whatever. Sounds simple, but it makes all the difference in the world. Good luck!
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